Posts
62. Learn to say no.
I have a hard time with this one when it comes to boys. Not to the extreme that I've ever been date raped or anything even remotely similar to that, but just little things that I really should say no to. If a cute guy is pestering me, why can't I just tell him to buzz off? If i weren't attracted to him, I'd be abrasive about telling him to get lost, or else.
Why do girls let cute guys treat them like the dirt beneath their feet? Like we're here for their amusement, when it's not supposed to be that way either way you turn the table. Women aren't here for the amusement of men, and men aren't here for the amusement of women. Commonly, women these days believe the latter to be true and live it out by drinking martinis in trendy NYC bars, but that's just a weak way of trying to conquer what men believe they have the right to do. Hence why most women that believe and act that way are single, with no man in future sight.
To successfully conquer what seems to be a man's natural instinct, mutual respect should be established between a man and a woman in any kind of relationship they may share, even a friendship. Sometimes one of the two can go too far—like I said prior—it could be either sex.
Personally, I really need to learn how to demand a little respect. The respect I deserve, at the very least. I need to learn how to just say no before I never learn how.
2 comments:
Oh man...if I could count all the times I got trampled on I'd run out of time for eating, sleeping, and blogging.
Not ALL girls do this, mostly it's just insecure ones. The secret? Work to building up your self-esteem. How do you do that? Do and say things that make you feel good! I have a problem with low self-esteem, which is why my number of "partners" is a little higher than the average girl. It's unfortunate, but it happens.
Surround yourself by people you think ARE worthy of your attention. The ones that make you feel good and don't judge you. Base your interest in a guy not by what he looks like, but how he makes you FEEL. If he pressures you or makes you feel guilty, tell him to eff off. I learned the hard way. But you can do it the easy way if you take the mind-healthy way.
Know what I'm saying?
I definitely know what you're saying. I wrote this more for speculation purposes and for others to gain insight from it, I don't act upon everything I wrote in this entry. :)
Also though, I know you said mostly, but it's not always the insecure ones. I'm not too insecure really, I don't have the highest self-esteem—who does—but for years I just lacked knowledge on how to get the respect I deserved. Our mothers always told us boys treated us like dirt because they liked us, and quite frankly that's rarely true.
Post a Comment